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Great advise I wish some one would have given it to me when I was a child.


June 5, 2001


The list included in your column is a keepsake.  I have cut it out and put in my "daily reminder" notebook.

In this day and age of instant gratification, when all we need to do is push a button and feel as if our whole lives have changed, advice like this comes in to remind us that the basic things in life have not changed.  I am sure that to some this advice may sound as if it were coming from a foreign land.  It is to those (and our grandchildren) that this advice is directed.

Take, for example, the point of becoming a good listener.  When did that go out of style?  It hasn't but, when we can just put headphones on and saturate our brain with noise from our computers, TVs, etc., it is easy to forget that just the "Sounds of Silence" are enough sometimes to bring us back to reality, to become more aware of who we are.

In this era of WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get), the advice that "things are not always what they seem" is priceless.  And it is not new.  Even in a Gilbert and Sullivan's operetta, the character of Buttercup comes out singing "Things are seldom what they seem...."  It is up to us to guide our grandkids to look beyond the obvious, to explore, to search, to value
honesty and sincerity.

Ah, to find pleasure in your work.....!  Yes, especially now that the economy seems to be taking a new turn, our grandkids (and others) need to discover (and rediscover) the importance of liking what they do for a living (or where they invest their time).  We continue to hear "I'm so bored!" from many.  Perhaps this piece of advice would be the one most cherished.

Thank you, again, for sharing your wisdom with us.

Best regards,

Morris A
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